Take Away The SEX…

Let me get my Auntie Advisor cap on before I start. Now you know I struggle with boundaries when it comes to my vocabulary sometimes, and it’s worse on my blog and this was something that’s been bugging the living lights out of me. WHY ARE MORE AND MORE WOMEN SLEEPING WITH GUYS THAT HAVEN’T…

Men Who Empower Women

Quick revision: I’m African and I come from the minority group because not only am I female but I grew up without a dad, so I know all too well all the stereotype beliefs on us ( sleeping around, being good for nothing, not educated, not etiquette enough,ratchet,  you name it), and that’s okay, you…

She Let Go

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go. She let go of the fear, She let go of the judgements .She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the “right” reasons.Wholly and…

Her Story: I Rise Up

 I rise up , and I would do it a thousand times again. Inspite of the heartache, I would love again. Inspite of the challenges that have given me sleepless nights, I would face those giants again. Short little story : Maybe I have introduced myself before. Maybe I haven’t, but what’s the harm ,…

Dating a Fatherless Daughter

So I read an amazing article on the struggles that fatherless girls can face, and quite frankly I agreed with most of the stuff. It got me thinking on what it’s like to date a fatherless girl, well, basically to date myself that is, and I am quite a pro at analysing myself whether I’m…

Shades of Black

Originally posted on Beautiful Ashes:
Shades of black How much beauty did you lack? Their words left you with scars that won’t heal, Hiding behind the pain you pretend not to feel. They said beauty is in the eye of the beholder, This seemed strange as you grew older. In their eyes you never embodied…

My Obsessions. My Happiness.My Sanity

LIBRARIES AND BOOKS: I am typing this from a library, and on my days of feeling low, I go to a library. My parents taught me the love of books,and without books and writing, I’m only a portion of a human being. I can spend the entire day at the library because it brings me…

I Need You To Promise To Hold On To Me — Thought Catalog

laurenritaHold on. I’m just starting to discover me, while I discover us. I’m a beginner in all of this. I don’t know how to be. And I don’t know how you want me to be. Don’t tell me to just be myself – you can count on it that I will not masquerade as anyone… via…

A Daughter Then. A Daughter Now

My little obsession. My daughter- niece, that’s what I call her. This little girl! I know now how beautiful and sometimes difficult it is to be a daughter, and yet I wouldn’t hold onto a greater title in this lifetime the way I cherish and hold on to the beauty of being a daughter.Just looking at…

Dear Fatherless babygirl

Dear Fatherless babygirl I know. I know the feeling. The feeling of realizing that Father’s day is this coming and you’re going to be as annoyed as ever. The feeling that you don’t have someone to call “Dad”  while others have that right for years to come. I know. Don’t get me started on the…

A Queen Who Slays

14 September 1993…. I love that story, and my mom tells it best, obviously. So, through out my momma’s pregnancy with me, she almost lost me enough times. Enough times! She barely gained weight while she carried me. Infact, she lost weight while she was carrying me. She was basically not well half the time…