Friendships and Sluts

Hoe hoe hoe How did people get the right to define us?I have one of those beautiful but at times crazy friendships with one of my bestfriends here, and simply put, she is not a bad person, but because she has a fat butt, that alone, just the big butt, she has been slut shamed…

WOMAN_ A Wiser and Organised Man

I came across this statement that a woman is simply a wiser and more organised version of a man, hence the iser(O)ganised) MAN aspect of it all. I’m proud of an initiative I have started and hopefully it grows with each coming year no matter where I will be in the world. The first Stamford…

My War With Men Crushes

Well, not all men, but give me a minute or seven to type this out real quick as I’m in the middle of having a mocktail. I’m a changed person so I won’t say anything controversial nor from the top of my head. Lol, that was a joke. Now, I had a new crush from…

Happy New Year (Sort of)

I know……. outdated, but let’s work with me here. First thing’s first, I’m blogging at 3am, so you know I’m getting real. Nope, no alcohol, no shots and no coffee. ____________________________________________________________________So, I lost the love of my life. No, he didn’t die, or get hit by a bus although that bus hit and run idea,…

Fake Friends…….

I’ve never complained about fake friends… There is so much irony in my openness, even though I readily share my experiences with literally everyone. I share and i speak and I do it especially on this platform because as human beings we go through things that aren’t always pleasant and we have to learn to…

Superwoman Kit

This is literally how I got through 2016 after many accusations of working too much ( snorts..as if you won’t call me ” lazy” or one of those women who will work their way to the top by being on their knees if you know what I mean) 1)Breathe….then cry : I am such a…

My Humanitarian Milkshake & The Boys

* Clears throat* Well well well, look at what hard work is starting to bring in my DM and in my Messenger shaking my head. Before we continue, I love these pants and they’re over 2 years old but I’ve put them back in the suitcase now that I know all the $3 thrift shops…

Take Away The SEX…

Let me get my Auntie Advisor cap on before I start. Now you know I struggle with boundaries when it comes to my vocabulary sometimes, and it’s worse on my blog and this was something that’s been bugging the living lights out of me. WHY ARE MORE AND MORE WOMEN SLEEPING WITH GUYS THAT HAVEN’T…

Men Who Empower Women

Quick revision: I’m African and I come from the minority group because not only am I female but I grew up without a dad, so I know all too well all the stereotype beliefs on us ( sleeping around, being good for nothing, not educated, not etiquette enough,ratchet,  you name it), and that’s okay, you…

She Let Go

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go. She let go of the fear, She let go of the judgements .She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the “right” reasons.Wholly and…

Her Story: I Rise Up

 I rise up , and I would do it a thousand times again. Inspite of the heartache, I would love again. Inspite of the challenges that have given me sleepless nights, I would face those giants again. Short little story : Maybe I have introduced myself before. Maybe I haven’t, but what’s the harm ,…